Men & women: similarities

From the day a person is born, gender is an easy way to categorize people. When you are a member of one group, it's easy to spot differences rather than similarities in members of the other group. However, men and women share more similarities than one might think. Let’s look at some of them.

- Both men and women are self-centered and selfish. Both sides are taking their narrow views on the issue; so don’t waste your time, trying to change your partner by imposing your values and opinions. We all want the other side to be cooperative, living up to our standards and expectations. However, both sides are rebellious, vindictive, and egocentric; therefore, neither side ever yields.

- Both men and women may be willing to sacrifice their interests or values to please the second half at the beginning of dating; but eventually, as a relationship develops further, they will start protecting themselves, and become selfish again. Both sides are forced to be stubborn by others' criticism to sustain their dignity and principles.


- Both sides will start a fight. Either side will lose temper, if the other side keeps on adding fuel to the fire. Usually the male side is held responsible, because men are hitting a lot harder than women.


- Deep inside everyone is looking for love. Even the most vicious killer Adolph Hitler could not resist women’s love. Both sides need proper care, getting support, help or encouragement when we are sick, feeling low, or make mistakes. Also, female needs more company and attention to her inside feeling, and male needs care about his outside habits, like cleaning up.


- Both sides need appreciation from the others. Recognition is directly linked to our sense of value, attitude, and zest for life.

- Men like to compare women, and women like to compare men. Men rate women by their appearance; women rank men by their wealth, looks, and vehicles they drive.


- Both men and women have biological cycles. On certain days of the month women tend to be more emotional. The reason is an excessive amount of liquid in their bodies and brains during PMS. Although men don’t have periods, their moods and energy levels are also cyclic. If you know your partner long enough, you will learn to recognize the signals of such cycles and cope with them.


- Both sides are willing to give advice, even if no one is asking their opinion. Usually the more knowledgeable side will give advice more actively, and if both sides think they are more informed, the arguments will be endless.


- Both sides are jealous. Deep inside men and women are exactly the same in jealousy, but usually male can hide it better than females.


- Both sides will have casual affairs. Times when women had to go to jail, or be drown in a pig cage for love affairs have gone, so why not?


- Both male and female are suspicious. The only difference is female have higher alertness, they will carefully observe the slightest change in the man’s behaviour, while men will usually disregard or take them longer to aware from female.


- Both sides have trouble being dependable. Simply because we usually make promises on the spur of the moment, without considering thoroughly about whether we have enough abilities and patience to keep them. Usually men are forced to make more promises than women.


- Both sides are denying responsibilities, especially when it comes to dealing with their children. Our rebellious spirit will not accept any blame for not taking good care of the children; we will strike back with the same accusations.

Men & Women: differences

Have you ever heard a seemingly normal woman saying something like, "I don't know what I do to turn men off. I seem to push them away. Maybe I'm too demanding, or not demanding enough. Men are so confusing."

And it could be that very same day that you hear a seemingly normal man, unrelated to the first woman, complaining: ‘I don't get women. I must be doing something wrong. Women are so hard to understand."

When men and women get together, there are, in effect, two worlds—his and hers. They have different values, priorities, and habits. They play by different rules.

Scientists have come to accept that a few fundamental differences between men and women are biological. It turns out that men's and women's brains, for example, are not only different, but the way we use them differs too. Women have larger connections and more frequent interaction between their brain's left and right hemispheres. This accounts for women's ability to have better verbal skills and intuition. Men, on the other hand, have greater brain hemisphere separation, which explains their skills for abstract reasoning and visual-spatial intelligence. Poet Robert Bly describes women's brains as a "superhighway" of connection while men’s brains connections are compared to a "little crookedy country road.'"

Different habits of men and women are explained by different roles in the process of evolution. Although life conditions have changed, both men and women tend to follow their biological programs.

Men tend to retain a firm sense of direction – they need to trace the game, catch it, and find the way home, while women have a better peripheral vision that helps them to see what’s happening around the house, to spot an approaching danger, to notice changes in the children’s behavior and appearance. Men’s brains are programmed to hunting, which explains their narrow range of vision, while women’s brains are able to decipher a wider range of information

When entering a room, men look for exits, estimating a possible threat, and ways of escape, while women pay attention to the guests’ faces to find out who they are and how they feel. Men are able to sort out information and archive it in their head. Women tend to ‘rewind’ the information over and over again. The only way to stop thinking of the problems is to talk it over. When a woman shares her problems with a man, she is not looking for solutions – she needs someone to listen to her.


Men prefer strident noises, hard handshakes, and red color. They are better at solving technical problems. Women have a sharper ear, they use more words while talking, and are better at completing tasks independently.

Based on these biologically explained differences, some psychological distinctions between men and women can be established:

- Men grasp a situation as a whole and think globally, while women think locally, relying on details and nuances.

- Men are builders and creators. They take risks and experiment, while women select the most valuable knowledge and pass it over to the next generation.

- Men are more independent in their thoughts and actions, while women are more willing to follow the ideas suggested by others.

- Women’s self-appraisal is lower than that of men. Women tend to criticize themselves, while men are more satisfied with their own performance.

- Men and women have different sources of satisfaction. For men it’s career and prosperity, while women value family and kids.

- Men have a pronounced need to fulfill their goals, and women rank relationships with others first.

- Men get sick twice as often as women, although women tend to be more concerned about their health.

- Women endure pain and monotonous work better than men.


All the above gets even more confusing, if we take into account that 15 to 20% of men happen to have a female type of brains, and about 10% of women have a male type of brains, which means that some percentage of men and women, no matter how small it seems, are partially programmed to the behavior and way of thinking of the opposite gender.

"Okay, I understand the problem", you are saying to yourself, but -"what's the solution"? That depends on whether you are a woman or a man.