Showing posts with label Dating tips. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Dating tips. Show all posts

January 31, 2010

How to say "I Love You"


64 Ways to Say "I Love You":

Don't compare to anyone.
Be courteous at all times.
Embrace the present moments without fear or guilt.
Live by the Golden Rule (Do unto others as you would have them do unto you).
Give your full attention when talking.
Become their biggest fan and cheerleader!
Toast each other over breakfast or dinner to say I love you.
Tell them how they bring love to your life.
Laugh about kids quotes on love or events.
Talk about your day during mealtimes.
Read books aloud together.
Say you're sorry.
Recall good and bad memories.
Let go of the past to say I love you.
Do nothing together.
Encourage health in all its forms.
Trust your partner enough to cry together.
Act silly together.
Be lavish in praise.
Ask questions about opinions, feelings, thoughts.
To say I love you, forget about labels.
Encourage adventures and risks!
Show your joy when they come home.
Bake cookies.
Leave stress at work to say I love you.
Use flannel sheets in the winter.
Solve problems together - such as crosswords or Suduku.
Show your gratitude for them.
Be a good sounding board.
To say I love you, take pride in them -- and show it.
Compliment them in front of others.
Spend time with them.
Listen.
Ask for hugs and kisses.
Take vacations together.
Tell the truth to say I love you.
Use pet names to say I love you.
Practice self-acceptance.
Hunt for treasure together.
Be interested in their interests.
To say I love you, let go of jealousy.
Accept their weaknesses and flaws.
Ditch work or responsibilities to play with them.
Be yourself.
Share chocolates, ice cream sundaes, milkshakes.
To say I love you, ignore slights.
Pray or meditate together.
Practice forgiveness.
Watch classic movies together.
Leave notes or send letters.
To say I love you, buy a "for no reason at all" gift.
Don't gossip or judge.
Give the benefit of the doubt to say I love you.
Give space when they're in a bad or sad mood.
Learn something new together.
Go dancing. .I prefer SALSA.[visit www.onlinesalsa.com]
Keep your promises to say I love you.
Make them laugh.
Consider their feelings.
Learn ways to rekindle the romance.
Hide a treat in their lunch.
To say I love you, make home a fun place to be.
Let them make their own decisions.
Say what you mean when you say I love you. Say why.

Saying I love you takes work and making your relationship stronger does take work. It's hard to be honest, and it's hard to accept the consequences of your honesty and authenticity. It takes time, energy, and commitment to stay connected through all the problems that life and people bring. It can be painful, aggravating, and scary to stick it out through all the ups and downs....but the alternative is worse.


By:
Hassan Mahmud Tanvir

October 10, 2008

Dating Rules For Women



Guys, if you don't like this, tough - look away now.


In another dating article on this site you will find a general set of rules than men should follow when dating. In the same way women have some general rules that they should content with when entering the dating jungle.

Now I know everyone is different so don't take things too seriously here. There has been some controversy over some literature published recently in the USA that sets out in detail the rules a woman should follow to get her guy (or woman).

Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider's 1995 bestseller "The Rules," explains how women should play hard if they want to get their guy.

I can understand why some groups would be hostile but the fact is when we grow up there are a predefined set of dating rules. All that happens is that we forget most of them after the age of 21 and then find we need to relearn them.

I wish there weren't any general rules and we just got on with it but courtship is a ritual; there are things that we make happen that excite stimulate, create interest, confound etc. Dating is a long test of compatibility.

Are we perfectly matched? If we just threw ourselves together then the chances of long term happiness may be reduced. And yet previous generations managed to succeed on a far less complex courtship criteria list. Many arranged marriages work too interestingly.

In every society there are a predefined set of social rules we follow, from the way and timing of eating to the way we behave in public. The issue here is that when women date there are things that can help them be more successful.

If we accept that dating is a game then there are rules to that game and winners and losers. If you know the rules in advance it gives you a head start. If men know the rules by which you are playing you may change the rules to suit the situation to keep the man guessing. Men love a challenge so feel free to adapt rule and add them as you feel inclined.

You can separate rules out into two parts, dating and online dating. Both areas have distinct rules that a woman should follow for dating success.

General Dating Rules

Always look great, whatever your income. Gorgeous hair and some lipstick and wearing rags will still turn his head. You have the advantage, you are the woman. Look your best as you could meet a potential Mr. Right anywhere at any time.

Never reveal information you don't have to. An enigmatic woman drives men wild.

Keep dates brief but your men interested. Less is always more.

Try and stay in shape and involve some fitness regime at a gym. However much you hate it, your Mr. Right loves your body as much as your mind.

Let your man pay. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab.

Ensure you receive flowers, if he doesn't know what a florist is, dump him.

Never ever sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything.

Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady's prerogative.

Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.

If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday.

Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends are sacred and not available for dates.

Keep your man standing on quicksand by shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.

Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss. Practice on a mirror if you have to.

Never ever talk about previous boyfriends and particularly their prowess in the bedroom. The number of ex boyfriends is your business only.

Never pre suppose anything about your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking

If any man shows the slightest signs of possessiveness or insecurity run like the wind. Life is too short for boys.

If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace dump him

Never talk too much about your father and how your date measures up in comparison.

Never ever come across as too available or too desperate, he will run a mile. He is the one doing the chasing remember.

If the guy in the corner is gorgeous go and get him and create the need in him for you. Never wait for men to come to you because you may watch him leave with someone else.

You may well have all the bodily functions of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on.

If you are wanting a child, don't mention it on the first few dates.

Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.


Always let them come to you, don't chase via email

Block anyone who annoys you instantly

Place the best & most vampish photo up you can find

Don't reply to instant messages with clever opening lines

Remain aloof and let yourself be chased

Always reply to emails at least 3 days after receipt

Never provide you true email or phone details to the man

Always date safely and protect yourself at every turn

Make sure your login name is stunning and sexy as well as enigmatic

Do not login for hours on end. Short, rapid visits are best

Do not assume the man you are talking to is destitute or sad

Never ever reply to emails at weekends, wait until a weekday

Never state how good your sexual performance is in your profile

If you don't want to date married men spell it out in your profile

A man who doesn't reply to your email within 3 days should be ignored

Make sure your humor levels come across in text

Do not chat to hundreds of men at once, the delay in replying is a dead giveaway and your Mr. Right will be off.

Don't even think about misrepresenting your size or description. They will find out.

Come across as cool and sophisticated for best results

Always remember ladies that you are a sexy desirable woman and the world is your oyster. Always let men do the chasing and always let yourself be the chooser. Always stay safe and never risk yourself for the sake of attending a date.

Successful Dating: For man


Dating: A Guy's Bare Essentials For Successful Dating

When going out on a date there are some basics that are worth listing in a quick list to cover the essentials. Whilst we all know this stuff it is always worth reminding ourselves as guys as to how to get the foundations right.

Bathe

This may sound cheeky but the worst thing you could do when going out on a date (especially if it is your first date with her) is to turn up unshaven, looking dirty and smelling. Women are the cleaner of the species and will judge you on how hygienic you are, after all, you would be appalled if she turned up for the date looking like a hippie that hadn`t bathed for a while (no offense). It doesn`t cost to take a bath and make an effort. Remember bad breath and body odor are an instant turn off and she will assume that this is how you are all the time. Even if you are just having a bad day (hey, girls have bad hair days all the time) she won`t see beyond your appearance - fickle, but true!

Arrive on Time

The worst thing you can do is turn up late! Turning up late will send out all the wrong impressions that you definitely don`t want her to think. Women always assume the worst and one of the worst is turning up late. Not only will she think that she has been stood up, but will also think that you are unreliable. If you are picking her up from her home, then it is advisable to turn up 5 minute before you are due. Any earlier and she will be adjusting her make up, or still getting ready and won`t want you to see her half finished. Turning up late... well just don`t!

Be a Gentleman


Hold the door open for her, let her walk through the door first, pull out her chair, be polite to her and the people around you. Women like to feel special and by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic.

Compliment Her

The first thing to say to her is "you look beautiful" before you even ask how she is. Keep the compliments flowing throughout your date, such as "your hair looks nice, I like the color of it, your eyes are very sparkly" etc.. But do not go overboard! A woman loves to be complimented, feel sexy, gorgeous and beautiful. However, most important of all, she needs to feel you are attracted to her.

Listen to Her and Ask Questions

Nobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about themselves, or not listening to what the other person is saying. But you do have to get to know each other. Ask her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. There is nothing more that a woman likes than when someone is interested in what they have to say.

I remember once I was sitting in a restaurant waiting for some friends. There was a man and woman sitting at the table next to mine and I couldn`t help overhearing their conversation (rather him talking about himself). I could tell it was their first date from what he was telling her about himself. "I play Saturday league football, I like boxing".... He went on like this for about 10 minutes without stopping, or asking her questions. She was just sitting there nodding slightly every so often, and looking bored. That day left an impact on me, and every time I have been on a date since, I have been conscious of the woman, and took an interest in what she had to say. This is probably the best bit of advice I could give.

Prepare

The last thing you want is to be sitting having a meal and the conversation dry`s up, and you are left for the rest of the night bored with each other. Think about your date and what you would like to know about her, and in return what you would like her to know about you. Try and think of any questions that she might ask you, so that you can prepare the answer. You think that it is easy to talk, and that you will not run out of questions to ask, or that you will automatically have the answers. But until you are there, and in the situation, you have no idea what it will be like. You can avoid all of this by meeting for a quick drink, then go on to see a film, so at least you will have something to talk about.

Who Will Pay?

This is a really tough question, as now women are more independent and like to pay their way. I suggest that you offer to pay and if she lets you, then pay. If she wants to pay, you can argue that you want to at least pay for half the bill. If she offers to split again, you can argue (that is if you want to), but if she insists on splitting then let her pay half.

The Goodnight Kiss

Some women prefer not to kiss after a date, others are disappointed if the guy doesn't even try. There is no easy answer to this. The only answer I can come up with is; wait until either she makes the first move, or that you both know when you are ready. Watch out for body language and little touches, but I would not advise sex on the first date unless she wants to.


I'll Call You


Only tell her that you will call her if you mean it, and intend on seeing her again. This is an awkward situation, and most of the time the easiest solution is, to take her number and tell her you will call her, but don`t if you are not interested. When saying good-bye just say "It was nice meeting you" and wish her luck, or you could just say good night, smile, and walk away. But if you do like her and are interested, then you have to let her know.

What Are We Going To Do On Our Date?






What Are We Going To Do On Our Date?

Let's say you are ready to ask a person you would really like to go out with on a date. You will immediately have the question, "What are we going to do on our date?"

The activity you pick for the date plays a big part in the date itself. A fun activity that feels comfortable to both people can make for a great date. The activity also determines how much talking you will have to do. If you choose a movie you won't have to say anything once the movie starts. If you go out to dinner you will have to carry a conversation all night long. That can be hard sometimes, especially on the first date.

Every one knows about “The Three Dates”. These are the safe dates that will cause no waves. They aren't very creative, but they are universally accepted:

A movie - Inviting someone to a movie is definitely safe. It is probably the #1 first date. You can go to a first-run film or a bargain movie. One good way to make it a little interesting is to let your date choose the film, or put a bunch of movie names in a hat and pick one at random when you get together.

A nice dinner - Another classic. As mentioned above, dinner out means that you are going to have to think of something to talk about for an hour or two. Sometimes that can be hard, especially on the first date. One way to lessen that problem is to go on a double date. And you can think about a candle light dinner-if you care enough.

A dance or a game - High schools are always having dances and football games, so you can invite your date to one of these.


Other Classic Dates

There are several other "classic" dates that you might consider. Most of these are more fun if you invite two or three other couples to go along with you:

Bowling

Miniature golf

Roller skating

Ice skating

Amusement parks

Concerts

Getting ice cream together


Hiking and nature walks - Local city, state or national parks almost always have hiking and nature trails. Throw some drinks or a lunch in a backpack and have fun.

Bike riding - Find a bike path or trail in your area and go for a ride.

Roller blading - Rent a pair of roller blades if you don't own them and spend the day together at it. If you have never bladed before, make sure the first date includes some kind of lesson or instruction.

Tennis

Horse back riding

Skiing

Water skiing


Exercising regularly - If you are both trying to exercise regularly, try getting together a couple of times a week for walking, riding, jogging, etc.


Educational Dates

The Zoo - If your city has a zoo, it can be a fun place to go.

Museums - Most cities and towns have museums: art museums, history museums, nature museums, etc. If you and your date like this sort of thing, a museum can be a great place to go on a date.

Public gardens - If you like flowers and trees, a botanical garden or an arboretum can be a great place to visit, especially in the spring.

Other Ideas


"Nontraditional" or "casual" dates can take some of the pressure off of going out. A casual date won't necessarily feel like a "real date", so it is more relaxed. If you ask someone to go shopping with you it might be a lot more comfortable. If someone is unsure how they feel about you, then a casual date (especially if it occurs during the day rather than at night) is easier to accept. There will be a lot less tension.

Shopping together - Let's say you are looking for a gift for someone like your mother, friend, or father. Take your date along with you to the mall and look for the gift together.

Picnic - Plan a picnic at a local park. Invite some friends along if you want a little less intimacy and get to know the person better with other people around.

Star gazing - Get a book on constellations (or invite a friend with a telescope) and watch the stars. This can be especially fun during a meteor shower. Can you tell I’m a “Star Gazer”? It can get very romantic lying down looking up at the sky... or it doesn't have to be, it’s up to you.

Walk on the beach - If you live near the ocean or a large lake, taking a walk on the beach or the shoreline at sunset or in the moonlight can be very romantic. It can also be a lot more contemplative and peaceful.

Visit a park - You can swing together or ride down the slide. If you go in the evening it will be less crowded. Parks are not just for kids.

Special events - Look up special events in the paper. The Saturday or Sunday paper in your area will have a list of special events for the weekend. You can find some really interesting things to try that way.

Flea market - Explore a local flea market one Saturday or Sunday.

Dating: Make it memorable


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Just to be sure it's memorable -
Record your date

Especially if it's a walk in the park or your date's first time bowling.
For example: take a one-time use camera and use it up - then plan to get together next week to look at the photos.

Leave the person you're dating with a memento or special reminder of your unique date (they'll think of you every time they see it) or email photos later...

Art-fest
Get together huge sheets of paper and pens, or charcoal, or crayons or watercolors.
Take your date to an art museum or art gallery or art festival.
After, return home (or go to a park with a picnic table or other location) and create your own artwork.

Lickey Sticky Date
Go for a simple walk in the outdoors or along the beach. Build a fire and roast and share sticky, gooey, messy, s'mores.
Lick your fingers or whatever else it takes to get cleaned up...

Floras Notta Bora
A botanical garden, arboretum or a community garden can be a great place to visit, especially in the spring. Take a camera, snap pictures of each other frolicking through the foliage.

The next day - a Beautiful Bouquet

Drama Whamma
Try out local, small theaters, not just movies every time. Sometimes the plays are excellent and some are just plain entertaining.

Whip Up a Banana Split
Chocolate syrup, bananas, strawberry syrup, ice cream - build a banana split and apply whipping cream as appropriate?

The Big Laugh
Find your local comedy club and laugh yourselves silly.



Factory Functions
Factories and manufacturers offer interesting factory tours.
Type into your search engine: "Factory tour" "Your town name" and find your local tours.

Back to Nature
Drive to the country, or a park and hunt for 4-leaf clover?

The next day send a Field of Daisies

Historical Histrionics
Check out your local museums - there are history museums or nature museums or aeronautical or sports museums tucked away in an area near you.
For a History museum date
You can pick one era upon which to concentrate while you're at the museum. Then find a video or movie set in the same time-frame to watch after your museum tour.
Civil War - "Gone with the Wind"
First World War - "For Whom the Bell Tolls"

Sail Away
Take sailing lessons together.

Groovie Movie
Can't decide - tape a newspaper on a wall (or somewhere that you don't mind holes in the wall - like the inside of a garage door).
Open the newspaper to the movie/entertainment page and ask your date to throw one or more darts to select the movie? Bingo. Or limit the number of choices by taping up a limited number of movies and toss away.

The Fat Lady Sings
Try an opera - sit in the nosebleed section if need be (for the economy-minded) and take binoculars? (If you don't think this is hot, watch the movie "Moon Struck.")

Jazz It Up
Find local jazz - check out coffee houses or jazz festivals.

History Buff
Check out local historical sites Often there are walking tours of historical areas in your town?often self-guided.

Game-Playing
Hit the arcade get an ice cream cone, then go bowling?

Artiste Unleashed
Go to an Art Museum - afterward use ideas from the art-fest date - OR buy clay or other materials for creating your own sculptures - or paper mache or paper, fabric, photos for collage.

Radical Reels
As an alternative to regular movies - animation festivals, documentary presentations, foreign and limited-run films can be a blast. Do a little research and check your newspaper's entertainment section. Even museums sometimes run specialty films.

Extra points for Guys
Guys:
Give her flowers (and bring a special one for her mother) ++++
OR send her a bouquet that reminds her of your date...

Impress a girl on the date



Impress a Girl on a Date
Posted by Hassan mahmud Tanvir

Asked your sweetheart on date ? but do you have no idea of what goes in a date ? or how to make the time memorable and mesmerizing for the opposite sex ? Here's how to impress a girl on a date and make her enjoy your company.

Things You are Gonna Need

Money.
A car or any transport.
Flowers (when appropriate).
Manners.
Sophisticated and sexy appearance.
Confidence.
Style


Steps

Take the initiative. If you don't invite her on a date, she most likely won't invite you. Be nice when inviting her; you could let her pick the place you go and you can pick her up at her place. However, don't spend a large amount of time deciding what to do. Be decisive. Have a plan B as often as possible.
Be a real gentleman. Buy her live flowers, open the car door, restaurant doors, everything. Girls love that.
Just be yourself. All you have to do is relax and don't worry about what she may be thinking of you. Have no fear about putting yourself out there; that will just make her enjoy your company. You'll show her you are comfortable around her.
Have a good sense of humor! Laugh at her jokes and smile. Never tell sad experiences, don't turn the date into a sad thing. Stay confident.
Set goals. The most important goal to set is making her feel comfortable with you. Ask her about what she does, likes, what her favorite movies are, and tell her about yours.
Be a good listener, switch "uh-huhs" for nods and smiles, and don't show disinterest.
Make sure you smile when you meet her, so that she will know you are excited to see her.
Tell her she looks great.
Listen to her carefully
Make sure you don't go too quickly on your date.

Tips

Make sure you bring enough money.
After the date, give her another flower. Tell her how much you enjoyed her company and leave her at her place.
Remember to walk her up to the door when you drop her off. Don't just leave her there at the curb.
Remember to dress nicely.
Try to keep hairstyles relatively modest. Girls worth dating appreciate the well-groomed man.
Have clean-looking facial hair. Get it trimmed or shaved off.
If you are a messy eater, don't order spaghetti or any other messy food at a restaurant.
Music. Make sure you ask what kind she likes before putting on your favorite tunes. She might not enjoy them.
Talk about where she got her hair to look that nice, or dress, or whatever.
Don't kiss her unless you know she wants to be kissed. Some signs include her constantly looking at you then curling her lips, but the biggest sign is when you're taking her back to her place; if she jiggles her keys before she goes into the house, it means she want to be kissed. Otherwise there is a lot less chance.
Warnings

Don't suggest what she should eat (unless asked). Let her choose what she wants to eat.
Don't tell her about your "sexy stories" or sad experiences.
Don't speak about your ex. This will upset her and make her mad.
Don't talk about money; it's a turn off.
Don't wear dirty clothes.
Don't be a girl about anything.

August 31, 2008

Relationship Between Man And Women






How To Attract Women

Hellow friends,
One of the problems some guys face is that they do not know how to attract women particularly the ones who are pretty and this is usually because they just don't know how or what they have tried did not work. The good thing though is that there are several ways to attract pretty women and this article would show you some of them.

The first way is to be confident, women like guys who are confident and are not afraid to do what they want when they want. So if you want to attract women you need to be confident, if you are not there are several books or courses that would show you how.

Another good way to attract pretty women is to be funny, humour is one of the top characteristics that attracts women to men. So if you are trying to attract a woman try to funny whenever you can, just ensure that you do not do it too much and make her think you are not a serious person.

You can also attract women using your body language and this is because it is not really what you say that matters but how you say it. Body language refers to how you behave and act when you are talking to a woman and some good body language characteristics you should have include maintaining eye contact, talking clearly, making sure you are well dressed for the occasion and being comfortable when you are talking to women.

A lot of guys are shy and find it difficult to talk to women and this is makes things hard for them as women are attracted to men who can easily talk to them without fear or anxiety. Remember your actions speak louder than your words, so if you want to attract women you need to have the right body language.

How To Attract The Opposite Sex
ROMANCE is a hot but sometimes elusive commodity. Almost everybody wants it; few know how to get it, and even fewer know how to keep it.

A popular belief is that people simply fall in love because of something mystical or because the stars line up in the right position. But those who study the subject say there is a lot you can do to enhance your chances of attracting a suitable mate.

"Romance is a very deliberate process," says Dr. Larry Davis, a Washington University (St. Louis) psychologist. People search for mates with, as Davis puts it, similar "romantic market values"-the sum of our romantic worth.


3 Questions No Job Seeker Ever Wants To Be Asked? In today's competitive romance market it is best to leave nothing to chance. Relationship experts say you should know what type of involvement you want - serious or casual - and you should be realistic about the type of mate you hope to attract. Then put yourself in position to meet Mr. or Ms. Right. "Going to nightclubs exclusively cuts you off from a vast number of possibilities," says Dr. Victor McCarley, a Dayton, Ohio, psychologist. Instead, counselors say, you could join a professional club or association, go to an art gallery opening, or take an evening course. Churches also have activities for singles.

If you are experiencing a romance drought, counselors suggest you increase your "market value" and thus your attractiveness by following a few simple rules.

Appear approachable

A pleasant voice, good eye contact, and a warm smile make you appear approachable. Designer clothes aren't as impressive as a dynamic smile, researches say. Flirting with a man or woman in whom you are interested is another approach, says Dr. Virginia Beard, a St. Louis psychologist who thinks black women have lost the art of batting their eyes, walking seductively and flirting in general.

* Increase the "intrigue factor"

You can become more "intriguing," Dr. Larry Davis says, by finding an unusual interest, such as scuba diving or collecting Ghanaian art or Portuguese jewelry. Traveling to exotic places or becoming well-versed in a sport can also make you more interesting. Donald R. Davidson, Jr., chief financial officer for a Chicago investment banking firm, says what initially interested him in his girlfriend of eight years is that she had traveled to South Africa. Actress Vonetta McGee, who appears with her husband Carl Lumbly in the film To Sleep With Anger, says she was "intrigued" by his musical taste - he played Prince's Purple Rain during rehearsal - and by his manners. "The day before we met on the set of Cagney and Lacey, Carl [Lumbly] called me to introduce himself. No actor had ever done that before," she says. "I thought, 'This man's got manners'. . . . I was really intrigued."

* Dress to enhance, not to entice

Many people, according to San Francisco social scientist Dr. Julia Hare, "get caught up with the face, the body, sexual attraction and the checkbook. We see these things before we even talk with the person." Unusual and well-coordinated colors and well-tailored clothing are also eye-catching. A unique pin, ring, cologne or perfume are good conversation starters. "Dress is not about money but about taste," says Dr. Hare, who, with her psychologist-sociologist husband, Dr. Nathan Hare, has written books on Black male-female relationships. Too much "flesh hanging out" can send the wrong message, she says. What you're about is more important than what you are wearing.

* Don't get lost in the crowd

No man wants to wade through a group of girlfriends to ask a woman out, Dr. Davis says. A woman who walks into a party or club alone attracts more attention, as well as a woman accompanied only by one girlfriend or platonic friend. A man attending a social event in a threesome with a couple also appears less threatening.

* Broadway your conversational repertoire

In most circles, simply saying "Yo, baby! What's up?" won't win you any brownie points. It also is considered somewhat offensive. But you don't have to be an egghead to carry on a conversation either. "People like creative minds and are stimulated by their mates from a mental perspective, "says Dr. McCarley. When trying to catch the eye of someone in your social circle, it's better to participate in conversations rather than to sit in silence. Keep abreast of current events, sports, community developments, etc. Another turn-off, says Dr. McCarley, is to talk excessively about yourself. "To say, `I'm a banker. I make this amount of money,' instead of sharing ideas and finding out other perspective hints of narcissism." A more attractive quality is to be a good listener.

* Be assertive, but not desperately aggressive

Dating rules are a little more flexible now, but many taboos still exist. A little friendly assertiveness by women is appreciated by men, researchers say. Carole Wade, a Los Angeles graphic artist and entrepreneur, didn't get a response the first time she sent a business card to a prospective date, but the second attempt led to a lengthy relationship. The climate is generally favorable for a woman to ask a man out on a date or to offer him her phone number. In fact, Donald Davidson of Chicago says, "I think it's flattering when a woman asks me out." But the prevailing thought is that it's a little pushy to send a drink to a man. And "pushy" and "macho" are considered unattractive. When a man is overbearing in his presentation or attempts to dominate the conversation instead of respecting the feelings of others, he is usually viewed as too aggressive. Equally repelling are people who act like they haven't had a date in a decade. Counselors advise singles in the romance market to relax, have fun and don't take rejection personally. Even people who are successful usually hear a lot of no's before they hear a yes. Dr. Anne Bullock, an Atlanta-area physician, says before her marriage to Dr. Lawrence Sanders, he rejected her offer to go out for dinner a couple of times because they worked together, then he finally consented.


Relationship Between Man And Women

Dear Friend,

It's sad, but it's true.

Most people are in unhappy relationships.

The latest statistics tell us that a whopping 50% of ALL 1st marriages will end in divorce and a mind-blowing 75% of all 2nd marriages either don't (or wont) stand the test of time either.

Why do you think this is?

If your relationship is like most others, when you first got together with someone, there was lots of excitement, love, friendship, connection and yes, even passion.

Then, as time passed-- you started getting that empty feeling inside and began asking yourself questions like... "is this all there is?", "where did the passion go?", "how come I don't see you as much as I'd like", or "why can't you be the way you used to be?"


If you're not in a relationship right now-- you're probably asking yourself questions like, "why can't I find someone I really want to be with?" or "where are the people who are interested in having more fun, enjoying life and have the same values as me?"

The bottom line is that you want so much more from your relationships than you've been able to have up until now.

You've tried everything you know--but you still want more.

You want more love in your life.

More understanding.

More Passion.

A deeper connection.

Better communication

and More trust.


These are the same kinds of things we all want in our relationships. The trouble is, most of us never figure out how to have them.

The relationship between a man and a women usually begins with Attraction. This attraction is charged by usually LUST in the beginning. The Relationship between the couple opens by the Channel of Sex wherein the LUST energy is released.

The Center of Sex/Lust is Love. and slowly this Lust between couples soon starts melting down to Love.

(From this Point, I am assuming the Couple is completely devoted to each other without much EXTERNAL ATTRACTIONS - speaking only relationship wise).

Continuing ahead.. The factor of love thus grows by overpowering lust and the couple start understanding for each other and caring.

The Desire of sex is now quite controlled taking into consideration, each others feelings, emotions etc. due to the GOOD Qualities of LOVE. I.e. Caring & Kindness. And being less Dominant.

Soon This Love grows further and its blossoms into FRIENDSHIP.

This state is the place where couple are more open from inside and spend a VERY VERY VERY LONG time in this stage. Here, Each person tries to know more and deeper about the other persons life. i.e. Trying to understand further. Great Qualities like "Forgiveness", "Adjustments", "Understanding" and even "SACRIFICE" come in picture. It is the stage where couples are trying to GET over their immediate "DOMINATING" reflexes. Usually mentally programming each other for DO's and DONT's. Good Qualities of Friendship(usually seen in movies) show up in this colorful stage of relationship.


This FRIENDSHIP matures ahead and its goes ahead to next level i.e. "COMPASSION".

COMPASSION:-

# a deep awareness of and sympathy for another's suffering
# the humane quality of understanding the suffering of others and wanting to do something about it

This stage is where ONE not only feels the pain of the other but also experiences it to be his/her own. It can be called more of a DEEP CONNECTION from Heart wherein Pleasure and Pain are felt without words and many a times irrespective of "Distance". It is in this state, a couple takes each other "for granted" (with a very very high level of understanding and deep faith) and try to help each other thereby "Acting/Thinking" alike. Its in this stage where one REALIZES his/her partner more than the SELF.

Crossing the Stage of "Compassion" one reaches a "Point of No-Return" in which the actions/decisions of the individual is PURELY WISDOM guided action without any attachments to the fruits of the action being performed for the other. Its in this state, the couple do not care about their actions for each other. Its sort of a BLIND love for NO REASON. Perhaps as big as an "Orthodox Mother's Love" which does not care what her "Child" is. All that matters to her is that she is the loving mother of her "Child".

Just like that The Couple who reaches this stage can be said to have experienced a taste of ETERNAL LOVE.

My personal opinion is, a Couple after reaching this HIGHEST point in this relationship and after knowing the OTHER person TO-and-THROUGH must realize how "BOTH OF YOU" are soo ONE-SAME from Inside Yet so Different. By further exploring this INNOCENT ONENESS between each other, they will automatically see this INNOCENCE in all. Thereby being blessed with "Love for All" i.e. Stage 2 of relationship between 2[two]people is now between the COUPLE and the WORLD around.