October 10, 2008

What Are We Going To Do On Our Date?

What Are We Going To Do On Our Date?

Let's say you are ready to ask a person you would really like to go out with on a date. You will immediately have the question, "What are we going to do on our date?"

The activity you pick for the date plays a big part in the date itself. A fun activity that feels comfortable to both people can make for a great date. The activity also determines how much talking you will have to do. If you choose a movie you won't have to say anything once the movie starts. If you go out to dinner you will have to carry a conversation all night long. That can be hard sometimes, especially on the first date.

Every one knows about “The Three Dates”. These are the safe dates that will cause no waves. They aren't very creative, but they are universally accepted:

A movie - Inviting someone to a movie is definitely safe. It is probably the #1 first date. You can go to a first-run film or a bargain movie. One good way to make it a little interesting is to let your date choose the film, or put a bunch of movie names in a hat and pick one at random when you get together.

A nice dinner - Another classic. As mentioned above, dinner out means that you are going to have to think of something to talk about for an hour or two. Sometimes that can be hard, especially on the first date. One way to lessen that problem is to go on a double date. And you can think about a candle light dinner-if you care enough.

A dance or a game - High schools are always having dances and football games, so you can invite your date to one of these.

Other Classic Dates

There are several other "classic" dates that you might consider. Most of these are more fun if you invite two or three other couples to go along with you:


Miniature golf

Roller skating

Ice skating

Amusement parks


Getting ice cream together

Hiking and nature walks - Local city, state or national parks almost always have hiking and nature trails. Throw some drinks or a lunch in a backpack and have fun.

Bike riding - Find a bike path or trail in your area and go for a ride.

Roller blading - Rent a pair of roller blades if you don't own them and spend the day together at it. If you have never bladed before, make sure the first date includes some kind of lesson or instruction.


Horse back riding


Water skiing

Exercising regularly - If you are both trying to exercise regularly, try getting together a couple of times a week for walking, riding, jogging, etc.

Educational Dates

The Zoo - If your city has a zoo, it can be a fun place to go.

Museums - Most cities and towns have museums: art museums, history museums, nature museums, etc. If you and your date like this sort of thing, a museum can be a great place to go on a date.

Public gardens - If you like flowers and trees, a botanical garden or an arboretum can be a great place to visit, especially in the spring.

Other Ideas

"Nontraditional" or "casual" dates can take some of the pressure off of going out. A casual date won't necessarily feel like a "real date", so it is more relaxed. If you ask someone to go shopping with you it might be a lot more comfortable. If someone is unsure how they feel about you, then a casual date (especially if it occurs during the day rather than at night) is easier to accept. There will be a lot less tension.

Shopping together - Let's say you are looking for a gift for someone like your mother, friend, or father. Take your date along with you to the mall and look for the gift together.

Picnic - Plan a picnic at a local park. Invite some friends along if you want a little less intimacy and get to know the person better with other people around.

Star gazing - Get a book on constellations (or invite a friend with a telescope) and watch the stars. This can be especially fun during a meteor shower. Can you tell I’m a “Star Gazer”? It can get very romantic lying down looking up at the sky... or it doesn't have to be, it’s up to you.

Walk on the beach - If you live near the ocean or a large lake, taking a walk on the beach or the shoreline at sunset or in the moonlight can be very romantic. It can also be a lot more contemplative and peaceful.

Visit a park - You can swing together or ride down the slide. If you go in the evening it will be less crowded. Parks are not just for kids.

Special events - Look up special events in the paper. The Saturday or Sunday paper in your area will have a list of special events for the weekend. You can find some really interesting things to try that way.

Flea market - Explore a local flea market one Saturday or Sunday.

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