Tip # 03
Opening Lines
In my last tip I sent you out to meet women.
How did you do?
Did one thing work better than something else?
Well if you found an 'opening line' that worked more than once, you should use it again.
But be aware, there is no perfect opening line that will work–without fail, time and time again.
There are many variables to consider including time, location, her mood, her receptivity, your attitude, your demeanor, and numerous other factors you will discover here at BetterDatesNow.com in the future.
For now, let's examine some opening lines.
But first, let's set the scene.
If there's a big crowd and she's with a lot of people and it's very noisy it's a bad place to meet and introduce yourself.
Why?
She probably can't hear you well and you can't hear her. But that's a problem because most guys try to meet women at a club, filled with noise, dancing and drunks.
It's probably the worst place to meet a woman because that's what every other guy is there to do. You're just one in a million. You're just like every other guy on the prowl looking for chicks. Although, I have had some successful encounters in that very atmosphere using a technique I perfected. More about that later.
A better strategy is to meet women where there aren't a lot of guys trying to meet women.
For example, the post office, the library, a museum, a wedding, a funeral, the market, the gas station, a department store, the park, the beach, the subway, a restaurant, even on a busy street in the middle of Manhattan.
Now each of those locations requires a variation on some opening lines.
But none of them requires changing the best opener of all; "Hi."
If you deliver a "Hi" with a smile like you're recognizing an old friend you haven't seen in months it can work wonders.
Seems too simple but it's true. Because if you deliver the line like that, she is likely to think she already knows you and can't recall who you are.
If you come off as friendly, non-threatening and sincerely glad to see her (like an old friend) she will be receptive.
If she is, and responds to you with a friendly "Hi" or "Hello," you now have the ball in your court.
It can be a virtual tennis match for the first few sentences. Your job is to win the match.
As long as she keeps hitting the ball back to your court, you're in the game.
If she doesn't return the ball, the game is over for this player, find another.
Here's a scenario:
You're pumping gas and at a nearby pump is an attractive woman you want to meet.
It's Wednesday, she's not wearing a wedding ring so you begin.
You: "Hi"
Her: "Hello"
You: "How's your Tuesday going?"
Her: "It's Wednesday."
You: (Realizing your mistake, you say) "So it is. So how DID your Tuesday go?" (you're smiling here)
Her: (Any answer) Good, not good, I don't remember, great…whatever she says you respond the same.
You: "So is your Wednesday going better?"
At this point-if you're smiling and/or being pleasant, she sees you as lighthearted and most women like guys who are lighthearted and who might just be fun to be with.
So now we're at a critical point– with the ball in her court.
If she says something here, or anytime before this point, that moved the conversation forward, you're doing well.
If she doesn't you're done.
Let's say she answers with "It's going ok, how about you?" You're in luck, she's interested.
More opening lines that have worked well for me:
"May I ask you a question?" If she says "yes", you ask a very obscure question like, "Do you think a full moon affects the way people act?" This launches a conversation.
"Is it me or does the time seem to be going by faster this year?" Also a conversation starter.
"I'm considering moving. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?" (follow up with ‘why?')
"Who do you think are happier, married people or single people?" (follow up with ‘why?')
With the above opening lines you're opening the door for a conversation. As she talks, you listen, and ask questions. You become interested in her. And as a result, she becomes more interested in you, because you listen. It's as simple as that.
Very Bad opening lines:
Do you come here often?
What sign are you?
Are you here for the beauty contest? (might work if she's intoxicated)
May I buy you a drink?
My favorite and most successful opening line: "Hi."
If a conversation is started, you interrupt yourself, extend your hand and introduce yourself.
Something like this: "I'm sorry, I didn't even introduce myself. My name is Matt."
The way she responds to your extended hand and the chance to tell you her name will reveal a lot.
Coming soon:
The foolproof way to know if she's interested in you.
One of Matt's best success stories. "I met her and she spent the night."
The secret to successful Internet dating.
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Dating Advice
"It's really amazing how the women respond to this stuff. I'm feeling like a dating superman now and my friends think I'm using some kind of magic or witchcraft and they can't figure it out.."
Rob - Washington D.C.
If she touches you and gets close to you on the first date, that's a very good sign.
Women don't touch-or get close to men they don't like.
But do you know how to respond so she will keep touching you for many dates to come?
If you handle it wrong, she'll be touching some other guy next week, and she probably won't even remember your name.
On the road of love you are either driving, riding, or walking.
Where do you want to be?
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