Romantic ideas to spice up your relationship

Romantic ideas to spice up your relationship
By Hassan Tanvir


Cuddle on the sofa and watch a movie.

Take a bubble bath together.

Walk on the beach in the moonlight.


Make a little loving gesture every day for one full year.

Put a note in a romance novel saying, "The story is great but our own love story is the best".


Put a single red rose on the seat of your lover's car before they go to work.

Send your lover a virtual postcard at least once a week.

Get every book ever written by your loved one's favorite author.

Get every movie starring your lovers favorite actor.

Keep twenty pounds of your lovers favorite candy on hand.

Take her to see the movie Titanic fifteen times.

Make love to him/her every night until he/she asks you to stop.

Give him/her twelve dozen roses on all their special days.

Compose a list: "101 Reasons Why You're the Greatest" Write each reason on a separate square of paper. Wrap them in a fancy gift box.

Sprinkle perfume on to light bulb. When light is turned on the scent of the perfume will fill the room.

Relax with a glass of white wine.

Listen to a romantic audio tape, fix a cup of hot flavored tea, and light two candles.

Keep a journal of your romantic fantasies. Share it with your soul mate.

Buy a bunch of fish at a pet store. It doesn't matter what kind. Leave it for your lover with a note saying " Out of all the fish in the sea, you are the one for me".

Take a picture of yourself in the most sexy outfit possible. Hide in a secret spot in your house and leave him or her clues on how to get there. Watch the sparks fly!

Put a blindfold on your lover and drive them to a place where you have a blanket, candles, strawberries, sparkling drinks, and a rose. Park the car and take off the blindfold while you read a poem you have written for them.

While your lover is in the shower, or bath, put their bath towel in a hot dryer for a few minutes. Greet them when they get out of the shower with the toasty towel.

Pull the bag out of your lovers breakfast cereal box and slit a small hole in it.

Insert a love note. Tape up the bag and return it to the box. What a way to start the day!

Write a list of 50 or more things you like or love about your sweetheart.

Unplug the TV set. Put a note on the screen saying, "Turn Me on Instead".

Play "hide-and-seek" in the rain. It's fun and VERY sensual!

Build your lover a web page telling them why you love them so much. Mention special moments and add some images and cool links to topics that interest them. Surf the web with them one day and just "stumble upon it". Or have someone send them an anonymous email with the link inviting them to the page.

Fill bathtub with warm water sprinkled with rose petals.


Fix a hot cup of Raspberry Chocolate, cuddle in a warm afghan and watch An Affair to Remember.

Place a perfumed handkerchief in the dryer with your sheets before drying.

Send your love a letter with confetti hearts inside of the letter so they pour out everywhere when your sweetheart opens it.

Invite your sweetie to an intimate dinner at your place. Make a pizza and with the pepperoni you can write something sweet, like "you are the one for me".

Surprise your lover with a kiss before they can finish a sentence.

Write your own love poems then record them on a tape and give them to your sweetheart.

Give your love an antique compass and say "You will never lose me". Your love will swear the needle always points to their heart!

While your love takes a shower, write the words "I love you" in the condensation of the bathroom mirror.

Leave a trail of "Hershey's chocolate kisses" from the front door to the bedroom, right up to the bed. On the bed leave a note that reads 'I kiss the ground you walk on.' Make sure you're not home when s/he gets in!

Write a love note or poem on a piece of paper and then cut it up into puzzle-like pieces. Send one a day to your special someone.

Play the game of monopoly with a few new rules. Change boardwalk into backrub, and Tennessee into take your shirt off. Every time you pass go, you get a kiss. etc.

Look straight into the eyes of your love and PAY ATTENTION to what they tell you! Tell your mate something about you that no one else knows.

Look into the eyes of your special someone often. "The eyes are the window to the soul". Weave love, sex, intimacy, passion and romance into the fabric of your daily lives.
Carve "His" and "Hers" jack-o-lanterns at Halloween.
Buy a set of matching silk pajamas, and take turns modeling them for each other.
Go through revolving doors with your lover.

Camp-out in a tent with your lover and picnic in a tree house
Men: Talk more. Women: Touch more.

Spend one solid hour exploring various kissing techniques.

Turn your "bedroom" into a "boudoir". Use soft colors and fabrics, fresh cut flowers on your nightstand, mirrors everywhere, etc. Hang your lovers Favorite art on your walls.

Be cool with a warm relation.stay tune as i am going to add some cool ideas also Dont forget to write & send me if you have some.I will publish them.
Hassan Tanvir

Tip # 01 - How to Understand Women

TIP #1

Become a good observer

The only reason some guy is scoring big with women and you're not, is that he knows something you don't know..
When you're out in the world notice how women act.

At a restaurant, a coffee shop or department store. Observe and make mental notes. If you're looking for a woman, in a bar, a club, a social event or wherever, observe how women act.

If she's with a man watch what she does:
Is she touching him?
Is he touching her?
When she's talking to a man is he doing most of the talking-or is she?
Is she leaning toward him or away?

We'll talk about body language in future tips but for now your assignment is to observe and make mental notes.

Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, "What you are speaks so loudly I can't hear what you're saying."

And so it goes when you observe.



You won't have to hear a word they're saying, because you will understand exactly what is going on by watching the way that they act.

This works for observing a couple, or a woman alone, or two or more women together.

Especially look for signs of 'interest.'
Is she interested in the man she's with?
Can you see it?
Where are her eyes focused?

Her interest is a key factor in any relationship, whether you want to take her home that night or marry her, her degree of interest will be the deciding factor.

In fact, there is nothing more important than her interest.

In next week's tip we'll explore more about how to gauge her interest. And in future tips I'll tell you how to maximize her interest.

Until then, become a good observer

TIP #1

Become a good observer


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Dating Advice

Married men live an average of 4 years longer than divorced men


More than half of all marriages will end in divorce
The average divorce will cost $7,000-$10,000
The average single man spends $35-$100 on a first date and 60% of the time doesn't have a second date with the same woman.
Every weekend hundreds of thousands of men spend millions of dollars on dead-end dates.
How much of your valuable time and hard-earned money are you wasting on the wrong women?

Tip # 03 - Great opening lines for meeting women..

Tip # 03
Opening Lines
In my last tip I sent you out to meet women.

How did you do?

Did one thing work better than something else?

Well if you found an 'opening line' that worked more than once, you should use it again.

But be aware, there is no perfect opening line that will work–without fail, time and time again.

There are many variables to consider including time, location, her mood, her receptivity, your attitude, your demeanor, and numerous other factors you will discover here at BetterDatesNow.com in the future.

For now, let's examine some opening lines.

But first, let's set the scene.


If there's a big crowd and she's with a lot of people and it's very noisy it's a bad place to meet and introduce yourself.

Why?

She probably can't hear you well and you can't hear her. But that's a problem because most guys try to meet women at a club, filled with noise, dancing and drunks.

It's probably the worst place to meet a woman because that's what every other guy is there to do. You're just one in a million. You're just like every other guy on the prowl looking for chicks. Although, I have had some successful encounters in that very atmosphere using a technique I perfected. More about that later.

A better strategy is to meet women where there aren't a lot of guys trying to meet women.

For example, the post office, the library, a museum, a wedding, a funeral, the market, the gas station, a department store, the park, the beach, the subway, a restaurant, even on a busy street in the middle of Manhattan.


Now each of those locations requires a variation on some opening lines.


But none of them requires changing the best opener of all; "Hi."

If you deliver a "Hi" with a smile like you're recognizing an old friend you haven't seen in months it can work wonders.

Seems too simple but it's true. Because if you deliver the line like that, she is likely to think she already knows you and can't recall who you are.

If you come off as friendly, non-threatening and sincerely glad to see her (like an old friend) she will be receptive.

If she is, and responds to you with a friendly "Hi" or "Hello," you now have the ball in your court.

It can be a virtual tennis match for the first few sentences. Your job is to win the match.

As long as she keeps hitting the ball back to your court, you're in the game.

If she doesn't return the ball, the game is over for this player, find another.


Here's a scenario:
You're pumping gas and at a nearby pump is an attractive woman you want to meet.

It's Wednesday, she's not wearing a wedding ring so you begin.

You: "Hi"

Her: "Hello"

You: "How's your Tuesday going?"

Her: "It's Wednesday."

You: (Realizing your mistake, you say) "So it is. So how DID your Tuesday go?" (you're smiling here)

Her: (Any answer) Good, not good, I don't remember, great…whatever she says you respond the same.

You: "So is your Wednesday going better?"

At this point-if you're smiling and/or being pleasant, she sees you as lighthearted and most women like guys who are lighthearted and who might just be fun to be with.

So now we're at a critical point– with the ball in her court.

If she says something here, or anytime before this point, that moved the conversation forward, you're doing well.

If she doesn't you're done.

Let's say she answers with "It's going ok, how about you?" You're in luck, she's interested.




More opening lines that have worked well for me:
"May I ask you a question?" If she says "yes", you ask a very obscure question like, "Do you think a full moon affects the way people act?" This launches a conversation.

"Is it me or does the time seem to be going by faster this year?" Also a conversation starter.

"I'm considering moving. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?" (follow up with ‘why?')

"Who do you think are happier, married people or single people?" (follow up with ‘why?')

With the above opening lines you're opening the door for a conversation. As she talks, you listen, and ask questions. You become interested in her. And as a result, she becomes more interested in you, because you listen. It's as simple as that.


Very Bad opening lines:


Do you come here often?
What sign are you?
Are you here for the beauty contest? (might work if she's intoxicated)
May I buy you a drink?


My favorite and most successful opening line: "Hi."


If a conversation is started, you interrupt yourself, extend your hand and introduce yourself.

Something like this: "I'm sorry, I didn't even introduce myself. My name is Matt."

The way she responds to your extended hand and the chance to tell you her name will reveal a lot.



Coming soon:
The foolproof way to know if she's interested in you.
One of Matt's best success stories. "I met her and she spent the night."
The secret to successful Internet dating.

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Dating Advice



"It's really amazing how the women respond to this stuff. I'm feeling like a dating superman now and my friends think I'm using some kind of magic or witchcraft and they can't figure it out.."
Rob - Washington D.C.


If she touches you and gets close to you on the first date, that's a very good sign.
Women don't touch-or get close to men they don't like.

But do you know how to respond so she will keep touching you for many dates to come?



If you handle it wrong, she'll be touching some other guy next week, and she probably won't even remember your name.

On the road of love you are either driving, riding, or walking.

Where do you want to be?

Keep reading Dating and Relationship Secrets - everything you wanted to know, but didn't know who to ask about women, pickup lines, great opening lines and dating in general ...

Tip # 07 -How to Handle the First Phone Call.

Method - TIP #7

he first phone call: Don't Leave a Message

Note: For reasons of simplicity, the term 'answering machines' is intended to also include voice-mail, pagers, and other electronic communication devices designed to give or take messages.

Asking 30 women for their private phone numbers will get you ten numbers, and those ten will result in only three dates with women who have high Interest in you.

The other seven who gave you their private number have low Interest Level. For them, the answering machine or voice mail is a great weapon.

For a woman, voice mail does her dirty work while a man thinks of it as a convenience.

Talk to the Woman, not her Machine

When you leave a message, you're not in control, you are putting HER in control. You're trying to find your way in the dark.

Did she actually get the message? After all, we've all erased messages accidentally. Did her machine run out of tape? Does she check her voice mail often? If she did get the message, when did she get it?

These are all unknowns and because they are, you are not in Control. Most importantly, you cannot judge her level of interest if you cannot talk to her. So what should you do?





One of the most common complaints of women is about guys who call, and call, and keep calling and leaving messages. "Don't they get it? Don't they understand I don't want to go out with them?" is the comment most often heard from these women. When asked, why they gave their number out in the first place, overwhelmingly, the response was "I couldn't say no to his face when he asked me for my number."

So what these women did, and continue to do, is use their answering machine as a buffer. It's a mechanical–or electronic–excuse for not talking to a guy they didn't have high Interest Level in anyway.

Sorry to say, most guys don't have a clue about how this works. But every woman does.

So what is the solution? How do we interpret and handle her use of the answering device.

First, after you get the number, I always recommend waiting 4-9 days before calling.

In a future tip I'll explain how I completely blew it with a FANTASTIC woman, because I called her too soon.

Identifying a "Screener"

You got her private phone number, waited 5-9 days, and started calling.

You called at 6pm, 7pm, 8pm and 9pm and got her voicemail every time. You did this on Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday with the same results, her voicemail.

Either she is out of town, deceased, or you've got a control freak on your hands, a "screener" who may never answer her phone.

We ask, "Why does she hand out her private phone number if she's not going to answer her phone?"

In the case of the screener, she's there, listening to the messages, getting the calls, and she enjoys the screening process. She's in control and you don't know where you stand.

So you've called Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday, four times each evening. That's 12 calls, and you got voicemail or her answering machine every time. Assuming she isn't out of town and you have NOT left a message until now, here's what to do.

The following Monday, leave your name and phone number and no message. DO NOT tell her you've been trying to reach her all week. DO NOT tell her you've called 12 times. DO NOT leave anything on her answering machine or voicemail but your name and telephone number. Then, forget about her.

It's a good bet that she will NEVER call you. In cases like this, perhaps one in ten will call back, and usually with a question like "Who are you and where did we meet?" If that's not a sign of low Interest Level, what is?

Today, thanks to 'Caller I-D,' the person you're calling knows your number. And many answering devices will indicate a call from your phone, even though you don't leave a message.

After calling her once, before calling her again, it's a good idea to disable the caller I-D feature.

Check with your phone provider to find out how to disable it. The method may vary between phone systems so you should contact the phone company in your area to determine how to do this. If she has 'call blocking', allowing only identified phone numbers to get through, you will have to use a public telephone or your work phone to call or she will see your repeated and desperate attempts to reach her. And she will know you are definitely not a Challenge


Tip # 7

Wait 4 - 9 nine days before calling --
Block caller ID -- Do NOT leave a message

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The First Phone Call


Guys - wait to make that call!

Q. I'm recently divorced and afraid to enter the dating world after so long.

A.Without the proper tools you should be afraid. Just as you wouldn't take a road trip without a map, you shouldn't enter the dating world without a proven success plan. Matt's Method gives you the plan you need.

Q. I'm not very attractive. Can Matt's Method help me get dates?

A. Yes. The proven success formula does not depend on good looks. Anybody can find the success they want by reading each Tip and sticking with the plan.




"It's really amazing how the women respond to this stuff. I'm feeling like a dating superman now and my friends think I'm using some kind of magic or witchcraft and they can't figure it out.."
Rob - Washington D.C.

Tip # 08 - What not to do in the first 60 days..

Tip # 08
What not to do in the first 60 days..


During the first 60 days of a new relationship, if you have a date to go somewhere or are supposed to meet somewhere at a certain time and she says "Just leave a message with the time and/or place and I'll be there", don't depend on it. Similarly, if she offers to leave the pertinent info on your voicemail, don't depend on that.

During the critical 60-day period it is very important to run a tight ship.

Talk to each other, not each other's answering machines, voicemail, text messaging, or pagers. Otherwise you will not be able to gauge her true Interest Level. You have to be able to match her actions with her words.

Tell her you prefer to communicate with her, not a communication device. This will set you apart from other guys.

During your early days it is also wise to pick her up, rather than meet her somewhere. If she agrees to that, it's a sign of her high level of interest.

With voice mail or text messages as a "middle-man" she keeps you in the dark.

And because of that, you're likely to hear things like, "I didn't get the message, something must be wrong with my voicemail."

"I didn't understand the directions or the address."

"I heard two beeps and didn't know when to leave the message."

When the woman has low interest in you she will find a million excuses.

The best way to break a bad habit is to not start it in the first place.

During the first 60 days of that new relationship you should talk to the woman, not her voicemail.


Tip # 8

During the first 60 days of that new relationship be sure to talk to HER,
not her voicemail.

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The First Phone Call

Guys - THE first 60 days

Married men live an average of 4 years longer than divorced men
More than half of all marriages will end in divorce
The average divorce will cost $7,000-$10,000
The average single man spends $35-$100 on a first date and 60% of the time doesn't have a second date with the same woman.

Every weekend hundreds of thousands of men spend millions of dollars on dead-end dates.
How much of your valuable time and hard-earned money are you wasting on the wrong women?

Tip # 09 - Don't make this Mistake

DON'T MAKE THIS MISTAKE!.


Well here is Mats experience.Read it.

"I was looking for women to date. Actually I was looking for the ideal woman, someone I could spend some time with and perhaps even develop a meaningful relationship.

At the time I enjoyed going to art gallery openings. It was a great venue to meet girls. There were finger foods, hors d'oeuvres, wine and/or champagne and sometimes beer, all free. And professional women and women of class liked to attend gallery openings where the work of an artist was on display. So what's not to like?

There were three or four gallery openings every month in the Los Angeles/Beverly Hills area and when I could I would attend. They usually started about 6 P.M. so women would come after work and, like me, enjoy free food and beverages while pretending to be interested in the art on display. It was fun!

I was wandering around a gallery on La Cienega Avenue and spotted a fantastic looking woman with another. I approached and asked something like, "What impresses you most about this artist?"

Now she had no idea who I was. For all she knew I might even be the artist whose work was on display.

She gave me some answer, which led me to another comment. We introduced ourselves-her name was Darcy-and before I knew it we were in a conversation. And I felt, from her body language and attitude Darcy was very comfortable talking with me.

Her girlfriend, seeing we were in a conversation, walked away leaving us to ourselves talking. I suggested I was interrupting her tour of the gallery and she said, "Oh no, I'm enjoying talking with you."

BINGO! She was definitely displaying a high level of interest.

We talked about what we each did, I was in television and she was a musician with the Los Angeles Symphony Orchestra.

When her girlfriend came back I excused myself saying, "I'll let you two check out some more of the art and maybe I'll see you before you leave."

That was a very good move on my part because I knew she liked me and I removed myself.

Remember, it's not how much I like her that's important. What's MOST important is how much she likes me.

I immediately represented a challenge to her as I walked away.

But I kept watching her from across the gallery out of the corner of my eye. I approached her briefly about 15 minutes later and asked if she'd found a favorite piece of art yet. "Still looking" she replied. I kept moving and kept my eye on her, once seeing that she was also watching me.

When I sensed Darcy and her friend might be getting ready to leave I approached her and said, "Nice meeting you. I'm going to get going. Maybe I'll see you at another opening sometime."

She responded with "Aren't you going to ask for my phone number?"

Do you see what happened? Wow, it was great! I was jumping out of my skin. "Oh sure" I said. "What is your number?"

She replied, "You weren't even going to ask were you?" I said, "Well, I thought you might be involved with someone."

"I'm not, do you have a pen? I'll give you my number."

"I don't have a pen, but I'll remember it."

Now she really thought I wasn't interested and was blowing her off. This was probably very disconcerting because she was a real knockout and probably never experienced a guy talking to her and not hitting on her.

She looked at me with doubt in her eyes. "No really, tell me your number and I will remember it. I promise", I said.

She gave me her number, I repeated it and said goodnight. She said "Call me!"

As I left the gallery I was repeating the number over and over in my head so I wouldn't forget it. I ran to my car, grabbed a pen and wrote it down. I was ecstatic! (by the way, it pays to always carry a pen)

I drove home very excited about calling this beautiful woman who was very interested in me. I had done everything right.

I got home, poured myself a glass of wine and then, estimating how long it would take her to get home, made a HUGE mistake.

I called the beautiful Darcy.

She answered and was very surprised I called saying something like, "I didn't think you would call, certainly not so soon."

I told her I enjoyed talking with her and was looking forward to seeing her again sometime. She said she'd like to know more about me and kept the conversation going.

Well who doesn't like talking about themselves?

But doing that, this early in the game is the worst thing you can do, and I did it.

She asked me a couple of questions; Where are you from? How did you get into your business? Where is your family? Etc.

I started blabbing about me and forgot about asking more about her.

I forgot to let her do most of the talking. I forgot that women love it when you listen to them instead of talking about you.

My ego had me believing my story was sooooo very interesting that she would be dazzled by what she heard. It turned out to be a two-hour phone call and about 90-minutes into it Darcy stopped listening and began telling me what was wrong with me.

She had been listening and analyzing me and everything I said, drawing conclusions that she thought were true.

Now remember, she doesn't know me. We only had small chit-chat at the gallery and then our 90-minute call on the phone where I spilled my guts about stuff that she seemed interested in.

I mean I really blabbed, talking about my childhood, my tough times, my good times, etc., completely removing any mystery about Matt.

By the end of that long phone call, Darcy said "Please don't ever call me again."

What!!??

In a matter of a few short hours I had taken it from "Call me", to "Don't ever call me again".

And I did it all by myself by breaking two very important rules:


1. Wait 4-9 days before calling. (I didn't)

2. When you first meet, use the phone only to make a date, not to get to know someone. (I didn't)

Not only that, I relinquished control and I was no longer a challenge.

I was just some guy who was too eager and too interested in telling her about me. Now I was just like every other guy she ever met, a jerk.

After she gave me her number, and insisting I take it, I completely blew it with the beautiful Darcy. But, I was cool and thought I might be able to save it.

I waited two days and called her, getting her voicemail. I didn't leave a message, but the next day I called again and this time I got her.

I apologized for running off at the mouth the other night and suggested we should get together for a drink sometime. "I don't think so", she said. "It would never work, goodbye."

And that was the last time I spoke to Darcy. Needles to say, I learned a lot that week.

I hope you've learned from my mistakes

Method Tip # 9

Wait 4 - 9 nine days before calling --
Don't talk on the phone, don't just talk about yourself - show interest in HER
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BIG MISTAKE

Guys - Fatal Phone Mistakes


HERE'S THE REAL TRUTH!!!

You are here because one of these applies to you.
Which one is it?


You've been dumped.
Your wife divorced you.
You're tired of women who lie.
You're tired of women who are takers and not givers.
You're looking for the woman of your dreams.
You want to know how to find a great woman.
You want to date more women - more often.
You want to meet your perfect woman and get married.
You've spent too much money on bad dates.
She won't return your call.
You're getting back to the dating scene and you don't know where to start.
You don't want to get burned again.
You've lost your confidence.
You feel the dating world is a jungle.
She broke your heart.
You want to change your luck with women.
You're lonely.

All very good reasons to be here and, believe it or not, Matt's Method can solve EVERY ONE of those problems

Tip # 10 -What does she say when you call?

ONLY Her Actions Reflect Her Feelings.

Getting ten home phone numbers will result in only five dates.

The other five will give you the "NO" on the phone they couldn't give you in person.

That "no" on the phone will come in a variety of forms.

We could spend years trying to figure out why she cannot actually say the 'N' word. As a rational person you might even ask yourself, "Why didn't she tell me she had a boyfriend, or was living with a guy, rather than give me her number and then not go out with me?"

Remember this: Only her ACTIONS truly reflect her FEELINGS.

Her words spoke her phone number. Her actions told a different story.
Actions don't just speak louder than words, actions SCREAM the truth at you.

The truth is, women with low Interest are inconsistent.

So she gave you her home phone number, implying she had some interest in you, and now she is telling you something different on the phone.

She's being 'creative' and here are some examples of that creativity:


"I have to get my head together, so I'm moving to Siberia, but I'll send you my address when I get there."
(Notice she doesn't even ask for your address so she can actually send you her Siberian address when she gets there.)
"I don't have time for men right now, but let's talk later."
(Would she be saying that to Brad Pitt or Mel Gibson?)
"I'm busy for the next three weeks, but let's do lunch one day."
(She likes you so much she can't find one hour of free time out of the next 504 hours.)
"I've got a lot going on right now, but let's keep in touch."
(Translation: Don't call me anymore)
"To tell you the truth I'm not really interested in a relationship right now."
(Translation: "I'm not really interested in a relationship-WITH YOU-right now!)
"I am on a long distance call…could I call you back… what's your number?"
(She doesn't even have a pen in her hand)
"Right now is just a bad time, but maybe in the future-who knows?"
(Translation: You definitely have me mixed up with a woman who cares about you.)

Notice how all of these variations of "good-bye forever" always give you, the eager male, a slight 'glimmer' of hope. Because she never actually says "good-bye forever."


She uses her creativity to make you think there may someday be a chance for you. Sorry to say, that day will never come. You would win the lottery before that ever happens.

If you want to have some fun, the next time a woman you call expresses her 'creativity' in a similar way, simply ask her point blank, "Why did you give me your number?" She will begin to sputter and stutter, and if she's really good you'll hear some real creativity. But if you do have the courage and confidence to ask that question, be sure to shut up after asking.

Simply say "Why did you give me your number?" and then don't say a word. Her response will be very interesting, and yet another lesson.


Her Interest and Her Self Esteem


Women with low self esteem and low Interest GO OUT on dates: because they want attention.

They know that any attention is better than no attention.

Her motto: "Men are to date, not to fall in love with."

Her rationale: "Maybe, with time and the right circumstances I could get to like him."
Women with average self esteem and low Interest BREAK dates because they cannot say NO to your face.
They can only say NO to your voice through a phone line or voicemail. Remember how she seemed to like you?

Her rationale for giving you her number, and then turning you down is, "I was only being polite."

Women with high self esteem and low Interest DON'T MAKE dates because they are honest.

These women don't want to mislead men, they care about men's feelings, are sweet and supportive.

These women don't want to use men, don't want to waste men's time, they love puppies, and think it is immoral and classless to go on a date unless they have at least 51% Interest in you. (It's nice to know there is still hope!)

Women with high self esteem and high Interest are the ideal combination.

Using Matt's Method you know what to do to take control of your love life.

If not, keep coming back. Much more to come.
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When she say's..



Guys - What She Means

Talk to the Woman,
not her Machine

When you leave a message, you're not in control, you are putting HER in control. You're trying to find your way in the dark.

Your first, step is to make sure her level of interest stays higher than yours.

Why? Because that will insure that your agenda takes precedent.

The one with the lower interest level controls the relationship...

Method Tip # 10

It's what she DOES not what she SAYS that counts

Tip # 11 -The Text Message Trap

Method - TIP #11

The Text Message Trap

Women and men are using text messaging more today than ever before. I've had a couple of questions from betterdatesnow.com readers about things that have gone wrong following a text message to-or from-a prospective date.

Here's a Matt rule that should NOT be broken: NEVER use texting to make a date. NEVER!

In fact, I'll go even further and say NEVER USE TEXTING DURING THE FIRST 60 DAYS OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP!



Why Not Text?
Because, just like you, she can be anywhere, with anyone and doing anything
when she gets your text message.



Do NOT Text

First, you don't know if she got it when you sent it-or if she got it at all.

Second, you have no way of gauging her INTEREST when she got it-if she did.

And third, it establishes a bad pattern.


Here's the deal. Everyone texts, so if you settle for that you're the same as every other guy. You're nothing special.

Let's say she says, "Text me and we'll go out sometime."

You SHOULD SAY, "I prefer to hear the sound of your voice, I'll call."

I hear all kinds of horror stories about women using text messaging to break up with a guy, break a date, and often not even responding to the guy's text message because "I never got it."

Do not fall into the text trap. Don't start texting until your relationship is older than 60 days.

If you go along with her desire to text and take easy way out, you will be OUT the easy way.

Insist on personal contact

This tip is closely connected to Tip #7. Read it again.


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Guys - Texting Rules


"The way you explain things has shown me how the mistakes I made in the past got me nowhere with women. I'm really getting somewhere with the opposite sex now and it feels very very good. I wish there were more nights in a week. You need to add another tip called "how to handle all the women who want to date you"." KB - Denver


On the road of love you are either driving, riding, or walking.

Where do you want to be?

Keep reading Dating and Relationship Secrets - everything you wanted to know, but didn't know who to ask about women, how to get her phone number, great opening lines and dating in general

signs she likes you

How to tell she likes you:



She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated.

Her skin tone becomes red while being around you.


Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you.

She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.

She rubs her chin or touches her cheek. This indicates that she's thinking about you and her relating in some way...

She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.

She exposes the palms of her hand facing you.


Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, licking her lips or touching of her front teeth....


She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.

She puts her fingernail between her teeth.

She laughs in unison with you.

She touches your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand while talking to you.

Plays with her jewelry, especially with stroking and pulling motions.


She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you.


Eyebrows raised and then lowered, then a smile usually indicates interest in you.

While talking to you, she rests an elbow in the palm of one hand, while holding out her other hand, palm up.

In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you.

While talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.


Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face.

She speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours.

She rubs her wrists up and down.


Dating Secret #1 - How to Understand Women
Dating Secret #2 - How to Tell if She's Interested in You
Dating Secret #3 - Great Opening Lines
Dating Secret #4 - Level of Interest - The Phone Number
Dating Secret #5 - Before the First Call - WHY Did She Give You Her Number?
Dating Secret #6 - How to Make Internet Dating Work
Dating Secret #7 - How to Handle That First Phone Call
Dating Secret #8 - What NOT to do During the First 60 Days
Dating Secret #9 - Don't Make This Mistake
Dating Secret #10 - What Does She Say When You Call?
Dating Secret #11 - All About Texting - Don't

Love Quotes

What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined... to strengthen each other... to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories.
~ George Eliot

In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals nothing.
~ Mignon McLaughlin


For one human being to love another that is perhaps the most difficult of our tasks; the ultimate, the last test and proof; the work for which all other work is but preparation.
~ Rainer Maria Rilke

There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.
~ Mother Teresa

Love cannot endure indifference. It needs to be wanted. Like a lamp, it needs to be fed out of the oil of another's heart, or its flame burns low.
~ Henry Ward Beecher

You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have really lived, are the moments when you have done things in a spirit of love.
~ Henry Drummond

Treasure the love you receive above all.
It will survive long after your good health has vanished.
~ Og Mandino

The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being. His heart withers if it does not answer another heart. His mind shrinks away if he hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration.
~ Pearl S. Buck

Love works in miracles every day: such as weakening the strong, and stretching the weak; making fools of the wise, and wise men of fools; favouring the passions, destroying reason, and in a word, turning everything topsy-turvy.
~ Marguerite De Valois

All love that has not friendship for its base,
is like a mansion built upon the sand.
~ Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Love is the emblem of eternity: it confounds all notion of time:
effaces all memory of a beginning, all fear of an end.
~ Germaine De Stael

Love is the history of a woman's life; it is an episode in man's.
~ Germaine De Stael


The loving are the daring.
~ Bayard Taylor

Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible.
~ Mother Teresa

The only gift is a portion of thyself.
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

The best portion of a good man's life,
His little, nameless, unremembered acts,
Of kindness and of love.
~ William Wordsworth

Grow old along with me, the best is yet to be.
~ Robert Browning

Love is a thing, well, its kind of like quicksand:
The more you are in it, the deeper you sink.
And when it hits you, you've just got to fall.
~ UB40

Love is the expansion of two natures in such fashion
that each include the other,
each is enriched by the other.
~ Felix Adler

Think about it, there must be higher love
Down in the heart or hidden in the stars above
Without it, life is a wasted time
Look inside your heart, I'll look inside mine.
~ Steve Winwood


Love is an electric blanket with somebody else in control of the switch.
~ Cathy Carlyle


Love does not consist in gazing at each other
but in looking together in the same direction.
~ Antoine de Saint-Exupery


Romance has been elegantly defined as the offspring of fiction and love.
~ Benjamin Disraeli


Find the person who will love you because of your differences and
not in spite of them and you have found a lover for life.
~ Leo Buscaglia


Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes.
There?s too much fraternizing with the enemy.
~ Henry Kissinger


To laugh often and love much... to appreciate beauty,
to find the best in others, to give one's self...
this is to have succeeded.
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson


Kindness in words creates confidence.
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness.
Kindness in giving creates love.
~ Lao Tzu


The heart has reasons that reason does not understand.
~ Jacques Benigne Bossuel


Love is the true means by which the world is enjoyed:
our love to others, and others' love to us.
~ Thomas Trahern


Love is always bestowed as a gift --
freely, willingly, and without expectation....
We don't love to be loved; we love to love.
~ Leo Buscaglia


It is best to love wisely, no doubt;
but to love foolishly is better than
not to be able to love at all.
~ William Thackeray


Love is a mutual self-giving which ends in self-recovery.
~ Fulton J. Sheen


We find rest in those we love, and we provide a resting place
in ourselves for those who love us.
~ Saint Bernard of Clairvaux


Love grows by giving. The love we give away is the only love we keep. The only way to retain love is to give it away.
~ Elbert Hubbard


The most powerful symptom of love is a tenderness which becomes at times almost insupportable.
~ Victor Hugo

There is no instinct like that of the heart.
~ Lord Byron


We are all born for love...
it is the principle existence and it's only end.
~ Disraeli


To fear love is to fear life,
and those who fear life are already three parts dead.
~ Bertrand Russell, Earl Russell


We can only learn to love by loving.
~ Iris Murdoch


May no gift be too small to give,
nor too simple to receive,
which is wrapped in thoughtfulness
and tied with love.
~ L.O. Baird


Spread love everywhere you go:
first of all in your own home.
Give love to your children, to a wife
or husband, to a next-door neighbor.
~ Mother Teresa


The dedicated life is the life worth living.
You must give with your whole heart.
~ Anne Dillard


Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness.
~ Oliver Wendell Holmes


You come to love not by finding the perfect person,
but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.
~ Sam Keen


What the heart has once owned and had, it shall never lose.
~ Henry Ward Beecher


Love doesn't make the world go 'round.
Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
~ Franklin P. Jones


The truth [is] that there is only one terminal dignity-love. And the story of a love is not important-what is important is that one is capable of love. It is perhaps the only glimpse we are permitted of eternity.
~ Helen Hayes

10 classic Romance Tips

1. Spread rose petals all over the bedroom

2. What could be more classic than a fine gold locket with your photo inside? (Maybe a photo of the two of you.)

3. Bring home one small, unexpected gift each week.

4. Write a classic, romantic, passionate, handwritten, heartfelt love letter. Most adults haven’t written a love letter since high school. (Why not? Have we lost our youthful idealism, or have we just gotten lazy?)

5. When traveling, give your partner a bouquet of roses; one rose for each day that you’ll be away. Attach a note that says something like this: “These three roses represent the three days I’ll be away from you. They also symbolize the love, joy, and laughter we share together.”

6. Say “I love you” at least one times a day.

7. Guys: Surprise her by performing one of her chores for her. (And not something easy like carrying the groceries in from the car, but something that requires some time and effort — like cooking all the meals over a weekend, or cleaning the entire house.)

8. Ladies: Send him a letter sealed with a kiss. (Use your reddest lipstick.)

9. Hold hands.

10. On your yearly romantic checklist, make plans for Valentine’s Day — well in advance!

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Getting your Ex-GirlFriend Back with Romance

If you and your girlfriend have broken up and all you can think is “How do I get my girlfriend back” then I have some tips for you that may well help you to get your ex back.

Women love romance, theres no doubt about it. So assuming that there is still a spark between you, it’s your job to build it up into a roaring fire.

Now this is important! Donot do any of these things if you and your ex girlfriend have had a bad break up and she has made it clear that she does not want you around. Doing any of these things in that case could make you look like a stalker.

These tips are only appropriate if you and your ex are still talking, still close, still friends.

Without further ado, here is part one of 10 Ways of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back With Romance.


Name a Star For Her
There are several agencies that allow you to reach out to the Milky Way and name a star. You’ll be given a beautiful parchment certificate and a star chart with the location of the star now named for your ex girlfriend.

If possible present her with the certificate and star chart in person. If that isn’t practical mail them to her at home or work.

Send Her a Special Thank You Letter
Write a thank you letter listing all the things she’s done for you. Something like,

Thank you for being the best kisser that ever existed
Thank you for making me feel like the luckiest man alive
Thank you for helping me to get through the final exams, I couldn’t have done it without you
Thank you for helping me when I was sick with the flu
You get the idea. Now end the letter by saying something like, “How about giving me a chance to pay you back for all you’ve done for me”.

Make a Video For Your Ex
Sit down in front of a camera and make a video of yourself apologising for everything you might have done to cause the break up. Keep it light, smile, but be sincere. Post the video on YouTube and then send her an email with the URL.

Wow Her With a Balloon Bouquet Surprise
Have a bunch of helium balloons printed with a special message for your ex girlfriend. Something funny is best like, “It Makes Glen Smile”, then a happy face and then, “Just Thinking About Michelle”. Tie the balloon bouquet to a post or fence or on her car, somewhere your ex is sure to see it. This works best if you know a bit about your ex girlfriends schedule.

Send Your Ex Girlfriend a Top Ten List
Write out a funny top ten list of reasons that you and your ex should get back together. Keep it light. Make it read something like,

Top Ten Reasons Michelle Should Get Back Together With Glen:

Reason Ten
Glen’s friends will think he’s an idiot if he loses a girl as wonderful as Michelle.

Reason Nine,
When he’s with Michelle even Glen is good looking

Once you have your list text or email them to your ex girlfriend one per day.

Now remember, don’t do any of these things if there is a lot of anger surrounding the break up of you and your ex. You do not want to come off as a stalker.

Send Her a Message In a Bottle
Write a lovely romantic letter to your ex girlfriend on parchment paper. Roll it up like a scroll and tie it with a ribbon. Get a clear plastic bottle, slip your letter inside, tape her address on the bottle and mail it to her. Yup, the USPS will take it.

Get Extravagant With Flowers
Send your ex a really luscious bouquet. I’m not talking about a dozen roses here, that’s a real “been there done that” sort of thing anyway. I’m talking about a big, beautiful, bouquet, one that sets you back at least a hundred dollars.

Send it to her at her work if possible so all her friends will see it. If she works in a place where that isn’t practical, then send it to her at home at a time when you’re sure she’ll be there.

Don’t get all gushy with the card. Keep your message simple. Something like “Thinking of You” will do just fine.

Take Her Out For a Not So Casual Lunch
Ask your ex out for a casual lunch. Why not? You’re still friends right? Have a basket packed with an extravagant picnic lunch, complete with chilled wine and caviar, ready in the trunk of your car. Take her to the most beautiful and romantic spot available to you.

Sweep Her Off Her Feet and Into the Clouds
This one can be a bit difficult to arrange, but it’s a great way of getting your ex girlfriend back. Take her for a surprise hot air balloon ride.

Hot air balloons usually launch early in the morning so you will have to ask your ex girlfriend out for breakfast. Make sure there is a bottle of chilled champagne ready at the end of the flight. Very romantic if you can pull it off.

Write Her a Poem
Poetry is too romantic. Write her a long loving poem that talks about all her wonderful qualities. Can’t write poetry? Do a search for love poems, find one you like and write it again in your own words line by line. Make sure you are thinking of your ex girlfriend’s likes, dislikes and qualities while you write. Once you have the rhythm going it’s pretty easy to do.

Remember not to get over sentimental or mushy and absolutely do not beg. Be fun! Make her laugh. That’s the way to get your ex back.

And one last warning. These tips will only have a chance of working if you and your ex are still friends. If she is very angry with you, if she has made it clear that she doesn’t want to talk to you than don’t push it. I’m not saying the situation is hopeless, but being fun and romantic will not help you right now.

On the other hand, if you and your ex girlfriend are still friends. If you talk on the phone, text each other, confide in each other, if there is still a spark between you, than these 10 romantic ways of getting your ex girlfriend back may be just what you need to rebuild the fire between you

10 Ways To Get The Women You Want

Number 10
Conquer the fear of approaching women

The first thing you need to get under control is comfort when approaching women. You need to get to the point where you can walk up to a woman and start talking to her without turning into an emotional basket case. If you're freaked out on the inside, it's going to be pretty hard for you to act "normal" on the outside. And it's going to be even harder to try new things and use techniques that you're learning if you're uptight. The best thing you can do is go out and start conversations with about 50 women over the next week or two. If you're too nervous to converse, just give a compliment and walk away. Say "Hi, I just wanted to tell you that I think you're beautiful. Have a great day," and walk away.


Number 9
Once you’re in, don’t back down
Once you can keep your cool and compliment a woman, try keeping eye contact with the woman while you're saying it. After that, try pausing for three seconds before you say the word "beautiful" -- while keeping eye contact. If you can do this, you'll have women stop you and try to talk to you as you're walking away. When you can do this comfortably, try asking her a few casual questions to start a conversation. Ask her if she lives in the area or if she's visiting. Ask her what her name is -- simple stuff. At this point you'll be ready to use the three minute e-mail/phone number technique, and ask for her e-mail.

Number 8
Don’t show your cards too soon

Let’s say you’re in class -- it could be a university class or a yoga class at your local gym or whatever. Go sit next to the girl you’re interested in and do your best to ignore her for most of the class. Pretend she’s not even there. Don't look at her, talk to her, etc. If she says anything to you during the class or asks you a question, answer it in a disinterested voice and don't look at her. She’ll be wondering why you’re not looking over at her and this sets you up for what comes next.


Number 7
Tease her, then get her number
Then, as the class is coming to an end, turn to her and look her in the eyes and say, "So is it true what they say about redheads (or blondes, or brunettes)?" in a cool, calm way -- maybe with one eyebrow raised. She'll say "What do they say?" Then you answer, "Well if you don't know, I'm not going to tell you," and give her a sly smile, as if you know something that she doesn't. Then say, "What's your name?" After getting her name say, "I have to run after class; do you have an e-mail address? Maybe we can grab a Starbucks sometime." Then hand her your cell phone as if you fully expect her to enter her info.

Number 6
Remember how important “inner game” is
I get a lot of e-mail from guys who are athletes, bodybuilders, naturally handsome, etc. that all say the same thing -- if you don't have the right attitude, understanding and skills, then looks alone are almost useless. On the other hand, if you have the attitude, understanding and skills, then looks aren't that important. So, focus on deepening your integrity and your understanding of women, and do something every day to step out of your comfort zone. You’ll get the rock-solid “inner game” that women find irresistible.


Number 5
Do you want a “Total 10”?
A “Total 10” is a woman who’s beautiful inside and out -- she’s hot, intelligent, emotionally mature, and knows who she is. If this is the kind of women you want, you're probably not going to meet her at a bar, a club or a strip club. Go check out some self-improvement classes or the gym or a yoga class. Start asking the questions that women usually ask at first like, "Are your parents still married?" "How was your childhood?" "Have you ever been in an abusive relationship?" I know it sounds a little backward, but you should probably start asking these questions at the very beginning, when you first meet a girl. This will save you a lot of time in the long run. And remember, there are no perfectly healthy people running around on this rock called Earth.

Number 4
Decide if you want to play the field or not
One of the most important things you need to do is decide what you want for yourself. If you want to date different women, then do it. If you want to be exclusive, then do it. However, make sure you're making the decision based on what you want for your life. Second, if you want to date more than one woman at a time and the woman you're dating says she wants to be exclusive with you, then you need to accept that she might leave if you date other women. Deal with it. Too many guys cringe and say, "Oh, but I can't lose this girl. I'll do whatever she wants." This is a bad move of course. When you decide to put aside what you want for your life because you're trying to please someone else, trouble usually isn't far down the road.


Number 3
Learn to set up an “open” relationship
If you do decide that you want to date different women, you might say: "I think that it's a big mistake for two people to get into a relationship so fast. Most relationships that end badly end because the people got involved too quickly and because they didn't know each other at all. I like spending time with you, but I'm not interested in talking about having an exclusive relationship with you until I've known you longer." Be strong. It's worth it.


Number 2
Start off with a bang
If you start off the interaction with a woman in the right way, you'll form a "first impression" that will cause her to see anything you do from then on in the context of the attractive attitude with which you began. I personally think it's a good idea if you keep up the Cocky & Funny attitude, easing off as you start having more and more conversation. Don't stop entirely, because at some point you'll begin to lose the magnetic challenge that worked for you in the first place. This is another reminder that once a woman thinks of you in a particular way, she's likely to think of you in that way for a long time. And if you start out by acting like a Wussy, she's going to assume that you will always act like one before she turns to run.


Number 1
Take your game to the next level
The most important thing you can do to get the women you want is to continually improve yourself. Learn from every interaction you have. Ask yourself if you’re coming from a place of confidence or a place of insecurity. Are you having fun and enjoying your conversations with women or are you getting uptight and serious? Invest in yourself -- get coaching from guys who are great with women and your skills will improve almost on “autopilot.” If you don’t invest in yourself and “sharpen your saw,” your results will never improve. Don’t let that happen.

How To: Pick Up A Smart Girl

Smart girls are sexy. They're witty, insightful and they're always wearing those funky dark-rimmed glasses. OK, maybe we're generalizing a bit, but our point is that it’s worth your time to learn how to pick up a smart girl.

We're talking about the kind of girl who tells great stories and the kind of woman who gets all your jokes. She's a great conversationalist and she's genuinely interested in the world around her. If you're wondering about how to pick up a smart girl, you probably already recognize the benefits of being in a relationship with a woman who engages you intellectually. So the only question is: How do you attract intelligent women?

While the priorities of smart girls aren't necessarily all that different from those of any other girl, intelligent women can pose certain challenges in the pickup game. Initially, it may seem as if the two of you don't have much in common. Your interests and hobbies might even be vastly different. Those obstacles, however, can be easily overcome. All smart girls need to know is that you can engage them on an intellectual level. It's all about your conversation skills. If you want to know how to pick up a smart girl, read on.

1- Don't fake it
Remember that scene in Good Will Hunting when Ben Affleck tries to pick up Minnie Driver at that Harvard bar? Remember how he tries to look all smart and sophisticated, but instead he just ends up looking like a douche? Yeah. Don't be that guy. When you're trying to pick up a smart girl, it's imperative that you don't, under any circumstances, pretend to know something that you don't. First, she'll probably see right through your sorry act. Second, trying to prove that you're her intellectual equal (or superior) will only make you look insecure.

If you really want to know how to pick up a smart girl, you’d be wise to remember that it's always better to seem inquisitive than authoritative. Trying to sound smart will only make you sound dumb or worse: pretentious.

2- Don't defer to her intelligence
OK, so you don't want to act like a know-it-all, but don't get caught playing dumb either. Obviously, if a woman has wit, intelligence and great conversation skills she's going to get your attention.

Understandably, you're going to be attracted to her. Just don't fawn over her. Even if you're legitimately in awe of her intelligence, don't let on. Giving her compliments like "Wow, you're so smart" or "I never would have thought of that" may seem harmless, but they don't necessarily reflect positively on you. Consider this: If you're constantly telling a woman how smart she is, she'll probably start to suspect you don't spend much time in the company of intelligent people. Not a turn on. Remember this point when you’re navigating how to pick up a smart girl.

3- Be curious
Smart women respect intellectual curiosity. So show her you're interested in learning new things. Tell her about the enriching experiences you've had or hope to have. And if you don’t have many of those experiences, talk to her about how you've always wanted to travel to Delhi, India or learn how to wakeboard. When talking to an intelligent woman (or any woman) your conversation has to go beyond those initial "What do you do?" kinds of questions? Take it to the next level. Ask her what it was that made her want to be a lawyer or a teacher or a librarian. When she tells you where she's from, ask her what it was like to grow up there. Ask great questions, and you'll stand out from the crowd. You'll come off as thoughtful and she'll definitely be intrigued.

And once you've figured out how to pick up a smart girl, maintain her interest by planning dates that will engage your intellect.

Taking her somewhere like an art gallery or a museum are obvious options, but there are lots of others. Intellectually curious people thrive on new experiences; take her off the beaten path to a farmer's market or out for some foreign food.

4- Be honest about what you know
When you meet a really intelligent woman, you might find it difficult to carry a conversation if the two of you don't share many common interests. Maybe the two of you haven't read the same books or seen the same films. This is one of the many challenges associated with trying to pick up a smart girl, but just because you haven't had the same experiences doesn't mean she's out of your league. Everyone is an expert on something. So what if she speaks six languages? Maybe you're a gifted carpenter or maybe you love coaching basketball. You might not be able to relate to her specific passions, but you do understand what it's like to be passionate about something. Connect with her along those lines. Show her what you know and share your passions with her. That's how to pick up a smart girl.

source: http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_200/242b_dating_advice.html

Prepare to dazzle her.

any guy can do it

I know many men, who have a flair for romantic ideas, sweet gestures, and spontaneity at the drop of a hat, so it's not impossible to become a "romantic dude," so to speak. Even the most masculine of "macho" men has the ability to plan a romantic dinner, bring home flowers for no reason or simply find the time in a hectic day to express admiration for his woman.

The following are some simple romantic ideas that will help you impress your lady without having to go too far out of your way to do so. Prepare to dazzle her.

Make a list
Make a list of the special days on the calendar that you celebrate together, such as the day you met, your yearly anniversary, or even the anniversary of your first kiss. On these days make a point to spend some quality time together. Cook a special meal (or pick one up on the way home from work). Buy her a card or write her a short letter, and let her know that you didn't forget.

Toast to her
Toast each other when you sit down to dinner. It doesn't need to be over bubbly or wine, but even a glass of water or iced tea. Tell her something you love about her and then drink to it!

Reach out and touch her
Use the power of touch to make a lasting impression throughout the day. There is no such thing as not having time for a kiss goodbye in the morning or again upon reuniting at the end of the day. And an inviting warm hug or backrub at the end of a stressful day is always appreciated.

Create a photo album
Take pictures often; don't save the camera for holidays and special occasions. Create a visual scrapbook of your everyday life together. Better still, set the timer and pose together. You will both appreciate the warmth of the moment when you see these snapshots in an album down the road.

Take note of significant things
Set something aside for her every day. It might be a newspaper article you read during your commute, a link to a website you came across, or even a story you heard by the office water cooler. She will appreciate that you took a moment to think of her during the course of your day.

Be thoughtful
Do something thoughtful for her every day. Whether it's making her a cup of coffee in the morning, sticking a surprise note in her bag, or leaving her a chocolate "kiss" on her pillow before bedtime, everyone loves a romantic surprise.

Keep up your appearance
Let her see you at your best. It's ironic that we dress up to meet total strangers but let ourselves go around our nearest and dearest. Most women love to see their men clean-shaven, in great clothes and perhaps wearing a hint of her favorite cologne.

Tell her about your moods
Be honest if you are feeling stressed or under the weather. Your woman will appreciate your honesty and will know not to take it personally when you come home in a bad mood.

Discuss your day
Sit down together when you get home and relate your daily experiences. The best thing about spending time apart is that it makes you appreciate each other more.

These simple yet effective romantic ideas should work wonders on any woman.

Romantic surprise Idea

Romantic Surprise Ideas

www.atozrelationship.blogspot.com cares about your relationship. I am happy to offer these tips on how to prepare a romantic surprise for your lover. We hope you like these ideas.


* Surprise them with breakfast in bed.

* Surprise her with dinner and dancing. (On dinner and a movie date night)

* Keep your relationship full of surprises.

* Surprise your lover with a deep shoulder massage while they are at the computer, doing tedious work.

* Surprise her by handing her the remote.

* Give him little surprises where he least expects it.

* Surprise them often with different comments. (Like telling them that you don't THINK you love them, but you KNOW you do...)

* If their favorite sports team is in town, surprise them with two tickets.

* On your first anniversary, surprise them with a limousine ride for the night. The two of you can cuddle in the back just like you did on your prom night and enjoy a night on the town.

* Fulfill one of their teenage fantasies: borrow or rent a convertible and surprise them with a moonlit ride.

* Surprise your partner by unexpectedly doing something for them that they dislike doing.

Romantic calls & surprise Idea

Romantic Phone Calls

Our lives are busy. Often the phone calls between you and your partner are rushed, businesslike and unfriendly. Why not take the time to place a few fun, loving and romantic phone calls. Don't be surprised if the first call doesn't go well, that is a sign that your phone calls in the past haven't been fun and friendly enough. After a couple of loving calls, your partner's harsh exterior will melt away.


* Call from your business trip just to say "Hi! This place sure would be better if you were here"

* Go home and call her to talk about nothing.

* Call her voice mail and give romantic instructions that must be completed

* Make excuses to call them every five minutes.

* Even if you are really busy, take time out to call them just to say "I love you."

* Call their work and ask in advance for a leave of absence.

* When you know that your love is working overtime... call them to say "I love you" and hang up... that'll make them a happy person in the morning.

* Call your mate at work an play your song.

* Place a heart-shaped sticker on your wristwatch to remind you to call (only if itâs not digital)

* Call their machine at home and say something like "Just thinking of you" or "I Love You".

* Call him on the phone one day and see if he is home. Then act like you are really busy and you will call him back, but to stay there because you REALLY need to talk to him. Then, as soon as you hang up the phone, race over to his house and surprise him with a bouquet of flowers.

* If you live in a dorm with a roommate, make plans for your roommate not to be there for one whole night so you don't have to worry. Call your love over and do anything you want.

* When you say you'll call, CALL!

* Call in the middle of the night just to say "I love you".

* Call them up at work to remind them you love them.

* If you have two phone lines or an intercom in your house. Call your love up and say: "I just called to say 'I love you!'"

* When you are going to be late getting home or meeting her, call to tell her. It is very inconsiderate if you don't.

* Call her at work just to tell her you are thinking of her.

* When you are near where they are, but you have errands to do and canât stop to say hi, call them and say "You know what youâre really pretty/handsome today".

* Call her (when you know she's home) up but hang up after three rings (I Love You) and she can do the same to you. A connection is established and it doesn't cost a thing. Whoever does it second (if you want to reply) let it ring 4 times before hanging up.. (I Love You Back)